How I can help
Anger Management Counselling
Anger management counselling in Surrey, BC with a Registered Clinical Counsellor. Sessions work on what sits underneath the anger — the pattern, the triggers, and the point at which control is lost — and on practical regulation skills you can use before that point. Available in person or online, in English, Bengali, Hindi, Punjabi or Urdu.
You might be here because
- You react faster than you can think, and see it only afterwards
- People at home have started managing you rather than talking to you
- It has cost you something already — a job, a relationship, a friendship
- The anger does not feel like it belongs to what is actually happening
- You have promised yourself you would handle it differently, and not managed to
None of that has to apply exactly. People often arrive unable to name what is wrong, and that is a perfectly good place to start from.
What the work looks like
Anger is treated as a signal rather than a defect — usually the surface of something else, and almost always a pattern with a shape that can be mapped. Early sessions identify the escalation sequence: what precedes it, where the body registers it first, and where there is still a choice. From there the work builds emotional regulation and distress tolerance skills, drawing on cognitive behavioural and dialectical behavioural approaches, and looks at the beliefs and history feeding the response. The aim is a wider gap between the trigger and what you do next, not the absence of anger.
Approaches most often used
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
CBT is a short-term, goal-oriented, practical approach to problem-solving. I use it to change the patterns of thinking or behaviour sitting behind a difficulty, and so change the way you feel. It is used for everything from sleep problems and relationship difficulties to substance use, anxiety and depression.
More on CBT →Dialectical Behavioural Therapy
DBT is a form of cognitive behavioural therapy focused on teaching skills to manage stress, regulate emotions and improve relationships. It emphasises living in the present moment while building healthier ways of coping, so that life’s challenges become more navigable.
More on DBT →Motivational Interviewing
A way of working with ambivalence that does not argue with it. Most people wanting to change something already know the arguments on both sides, and being pushed tends to entrench the other half. MI works with your own reasons for change rather than supplying them, which is why it is non-confrontational by design and why it is standard in substance use work.
More on MI →
Further reading
How therapy works
What "trauma-informed" actually means, and what it should look like in the room
Trauma-informed appears on nearly every counselling website in British Columbia, which has worn the phrase close to meaningless. Used properly it describes how a session is run — pace, choice, safety, and what happens when something surfaces — rather than a technique anyone performs on you.
Before you book
What actually happens in a first counselling session
A first session is mostly you talking and me listening, with no obligation to tell the worst of it straight away. Here is what the hour is actually spent on, what I will ask, and what you are free not to answer.